Wondering why falling in love is easy but starting a new relationship is so hard. New Relationship is tricky especially when you are full of doubts & insecurities in relationships. Attracting love in your life is never easy. You neither want to hurt the other person does not want to get hurt. It is better to be 100 % sure of being taking a plunge. Here is how
The easiest kind of relationship for me is with ten thousand people. The hardest is with one. – Joan Baez
Are you ready for a New Relationship?
Well, it may seem a cliché but a lot depends on your answer. Set aside your sentiments, affection & attraction for once. Empty your mind & Think rationally, do you really want it? Are you prepared to invest your energy & time? Is it for real or a mere rebound love? Is your loneliness affecting your decision?
If you are able to answer the above-said questions honestly, you would know where you stand. Don’t confuse between love & relationship. Love is far less demanding. A Relationship is an emotional uphill. So choose carefully.
Love or Temptation?
Believe it or not In 9 out of 10 cases, couples fall out of love citing incompatibility as the reason. The truth is there has never been any compatibility in the first place. It was a mere case of temptation-on-its -peak. When adrenaline was riding high, you had Time of your life. But as soon as the magic fizzled out you are back to square one. Stuck on the web. Spare yourself the pain.
Don’t jump into the bed on the first available opportunity unless you are just up for some ‘adventure’. Spare some quality time with your new man /woman. Spend some time in your partner’s social circle. Talk about matters that interest you both. Plan a couple of casual dates just to get to know each other.
Should You wait before starting a new relationship?
She has exactly the same eyes as your ex! Or Oh Your new man looks so similar to your ex !! Does it ring some bell? Have you ever thought about why you tend to date those who have striking similarities with your ex? Same mannerism, similar background, looks or sometimes even exactly the same name. Well, the reason is clear & simple. You have not gotten over your ex & chances are your present relationship with your chosen ’ Doppelganger ‘ won’t last.
Don’t jump into anything just to soothe your shattered ego. You are not going to do any good to yourself or anyone else stuck with you . Give yourself some time. When in doubt, you can always turn to close friends, who know you inside out, for some relationship advice. Believe me, you won’t regret it. Get over your past in a constructive way & then move ahead.
A blind date is a way to go?
Exchanging Phone number & adding each other on social networking doesn’t account for knowing each other. Come out of the virtual world. Devote some time to know the real person, his/her background, personality traits, even a little a bit about his past relationships.
Blind dates are fun, But blind relationships are true disasters. Don’t make assumptions. If you are not cautious, some truth might surprise or shock you. Chances are you end up getting involved with the person who is your exact opposite. You don’t to be cheated upon by your partner & at least don’t want to be stuck up with a much-married man. Open your eyes & ears. Snoop around a little for your own sake. It’s not a crime after all.
Your expectations & limitations
Talk to your love interest in your expectation from him/her. Be honest & straight forward. At this instant don’t sugar coat your words. That doesn’t mean you have to be rude or demanding.
Politely convey your thoughts. It would save many confusions & conflicts in the future. Your future depends upon your perception.
Apart from your expectation, it is mandatory to convey your limitations. For example, you should clearly mention it to your partner that on the weekend you like to visit your parents or hang around with your gang.
Your idea of living, your lifestyle, are you a lavish spender or a thoughtful buyer, etc. It might look trivial at first, but many issues arise later due to conflicting lifestyle choices. Although it is not possible to declare all your habits & choice at once you must make it a point to convey it asap.
A parting note
There is no rule book for life & its complexities. We have to learn during the process. The key lies in being positive & expressive. If you value your relations you would go to any extent to contain it. Enjoy the togetherness & let the love blossom.
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